SECOND/FASHION BLOG†

vuxr:

I miss someone and I’m pissed that they are happy without me in their lives! Is this relatable

40ozshawty:

i just wanna get drunk n make out w you

Anonymous: Do you have a boyfriend? Have you ever had a boyfriend? I'm almost 20 and I feel so alone. My big size probably disgusts everyone and I was wondering if you could give me any confidence advice or relationship advice.

afatfox:

this is my fox.  we’ve been together for 2.5 years and I’ve never been happier.  prior to him I’d been in other relationships, too. we’re entirely in love with eachother and there are no redeeming qualities that I have to ‘make up for being fat’.  he loves me entirely, my body is not my flaw and he would never see it that way. there are numerous fat people who are in happy relationships with partners who love and appreciate them exactly as is.

I recently just made a video on confidence and while it’s pretty long, it’s basically my story with it and what has helped me along the way.
Confidence Video

a big part of this process is to stop looking at fat as all of the negative connotations associated with it.  fat to me is merely an adjective, I have fat, I am fat, it’s not the best or worst thing about me.  there are (obviously) people who will love me and want me - all of me.  that can be said for anyone really, no matter who you are there are going to be people who are attracted to you.  that’s not the basis of our worth, but if that’s a part of what we want out of life then we can have it.  being fat isn’t a sentence to die alone and to be forever unhappy.  I know a lot of the world would have us believe that, but it’s so far from the truth.

part of my advice would be to browse the fat positive tags on here and look at these fat people enjoying their lives, their bodies, and themselves as a whole.  I think a part of the issue is that you don’t entirely realize that there ARE fat folks who have what you think you can’t because you’re fat and maybe seeing that they do will help.